The advice

So, his senior said something about my bf. He saw the similarity between him with N*val in the past. He said when he see my bf, it feels like seeing him in the past. "Twenties years ago, I was like him. The clumsy and silly one. Everybody said that I dont have a bright future. But then there was a woman who changed me. " By the way, now he is a businessman and a kind of politician.
I just smiled, not really into it.
"So, I guess the woman now is your wife." I replied bluntly.
"Nope."
"The ex?"
"Yes. The "Miss Ospek". I was so naive and dull asking her to be my girl. But we were going out eventually. And it happened. She changed me, at 24 Ive became an auditor in a big company."
It wouldnt happen to N*val, I said to my self.
"You said that you see kindness in him, thats why you stand for him for 4 years, right?"
I nodded with nerve smile. We speak English in front of many people, in front Nov*l, J*se, J*sica and others, and it is not a normal conversation. It sounds like relationship consultation.
"The kindness is the key of success, even people betray and play with us, the kindness will lead the way."
"Errrr Okay.."
It wouldnt happen with Noval, I said to myself. I dont have any idea of changing him, I ve already been tired of quarelling anytime we have different thought.
"He is afraid of losing you. He tried to be a leader for you, but he will never be. Because you are a smart girl."
If I am really that smart, it will be easy for me for studying English translation, I think in doubt.
"I started to change for good then she left me. You could leave him for good, or you can wait to get the better version of him. He is a diamond, you just need to polish him."
I shrugged my shoulder.
"Believe me, Im good at learning about people."
"He is a dull. Everytime I give a word, he fight back." I said honestly.
"His shio is snake right. "
"Yes." I laughed. So we are talking about shio right now.
"If you try to fight with snake, it will stand and fight back. So dont make a fight, but just kick it hard."
" hahaha, make sense."
"You get it now, just kick it. Do trade off (tarik ulur)."
"Yeah, I dont know. I will try."

Its general advice , I am a girl, need a specific tips for sure.

But then I think the honest reason why I ve been stuck in this relationship, because I am not good at flirting and cheating with others, or because I am so selfish and he is always been there for me. So there wont any chances we separated. Its not all about his kindness and clumsiness. I ve no idea of changing him. I ve been sick of fighting with him a lot.